Wednesday, May 16, 2012

It's been two years to the day half the time I've been away. I know I'm not there enough but that's gonna change cause I'm coming back to show that I'm keeping the promise I made.

Okay you guys knew that I have tasted two long distance relationships, and I'm sorry to tell you that long distance relationships are suck! For reals. A friend of mine recently got into a long distance relationship and she was like, "We can work it out!", and I replied, "GOD-BLESS-YOU!". Amen.

LDR was never how God intended for it to be. For me it is like being single, but worse. Yes, it WAS. One of the most exciting things of not being single is that your friends don't give you the we-are-so-sorry-you-are-single-and-wish-we-could-help look whenever you see them. So what's happening is that you have a boyfriend and people are still feeling sorry for you (girl, don't worry, I felt sorry for myself enough back then. Trust me). Therefore making that whole situation very confusing. Sometimes I called up the ex (whoever you prefer) after one of those encounters and asked him if we are still, in fact, together. As to why one of them hadn't left me yet for being crazy is beyond me.

But really, all jokes aside. LDR isn't an ideal situation. My best friend not longer lived up the street. He wasn't here for the day in, day out, but this is the situation we are in. We were working hard to make the best of it. Sometimes life unfolds very differently than we plan for it to and I refused to allow for this to ruin how great we were together, we talked about making plans to eventually be closer to each other, but basically we were around 12,000 km apart from each other, so please be real, how we could afford to see each other at least twice a year?

And speaking of being abandoned by the person who keeps me sane, let's talk about that for a second. I've noticed there are two types of people when it comes to talking about LDR:

  1. The ones that look at you with pity in their eyes and ask you, "How ya doin'?" like the only reason your boyfriend moved was to get as far away from you as possible. Then they start talking about how you/he'll eventually find someone. It's only a matter of time.
  2. They go on and on and on like Titanic about how terrible LDR is and ask you a million questions about all the funny (but only to them) little things that happen during this time, like the dumb little arguments or having to go to everything dateless. Yea it's all real freaking hilarious! You do realise this is my life "we" are laughing about - and by we I mean you laughing while I'm crying on the inside.

I figure, an LDR is only a season of our lives. I believe LDR works if both of you want it to work. LDR brings good lights to be honest, like it really makes your relationship stronger and makes you know more about each other since you have to communicate well and work out your problems. True love can survive everything, right? (When I was in an LDR sometimes I found myself justifying a little too much why I don't need to do my hair, shez!).

The most important thing: Keep the love and faith alive. You know that there's a light at the end of the tunnel :)

With ♥,

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