Thursday, February 3, 2011

And I don't want the world to see me 'cause I don't think that they'd understand when everything's made to be broken I just want you to know who I am.

Some breaking news!

November 2010: A friend of mine deleted a person from her life. Many of friends keep in contact with their past loves or people they've dated, but she cannot. She got so disgusted that she just needs to delete him completely from her life.

She told me about her relationship with this guy began pleasantly, but after the 'honeymoon' period it turned verbally abussive. Little by little her boyfriend began to plant seed in her head that could control her actions. He made her friends were the enemy and he was the only one who truly understood her (later she began to make him the priority of her life). Looking back again, her boyfriend would also display his temper to intimidate her. One time they got in a fight, he punched the wall so hard that it left a mark. Wow!

Anytime they had a fight, he'd always try to keep her in the relationship. Sometimes he would come crying back to her, and begging her to stay with him. She felt that deep down he was a good person so she thought that maybe there's something wrong and she really wanted to help him find the right path. Man, she loved him, although I feel that when men act this way it is selfish because they should let a woman move on. But love is blind. Sometimes we did not realize that in the relationship we had lost ourselves for our boyfriend/girlfriend. My friend has lost her friends, and her emotions were in the palm of his hand.

But it was not until she joined a random conversation with me and my friends about the signs of an unhealthy relationship, that she realized she was being verbally abused. That day she was holding out hope that "It doesn't happen to me, it doesn't happen to me..", but then she has become sick of trying to figure out what went wrong with him, with their relationship, and with herself. At that point, she knew she had to get out of the relationship - she needs to take care of herself and, "It's not my job to take care of him!"

Oh.. She's so brave. *Finally*

According to her story, the breakup process itself was not easy and was very painful. In order to get out of the relationship, we really have to cut off all ties. She had to make sure that herself's so very ready to give up. She was in love with him, but she wouldn't take the risk and would not fight for him *inhale* She won't regret it because if she would've stayed with him, he would've have ruined her life *exhale*

And now, she is a happy 23 years young. She gains back control of her life and knows that there's life after her abusive relationship. She needed a safe place, and she has found it in her best friends' arms. She knew her friends (and family) will support her in all her decisions and she will be there when she needs them.

In our (ladies) disappointment in the search for a man who is true, there are so many lesson learned :)

♥, Me.